As a wedding DJ in Asheville, I've had the privilege of witnessing several first dances. It's one of the most intimate and memorable moments of any wedding reception. But for many couples, choosing that perfect first dance song can feel overwhelming. Don't worry - I'm here to help you navigate this musical journey with some expert tips and insights.
Why Your First Dance Song Matters
Your first dance song sets the tone for your entire reception. It's a musical representation of your love story and the first chapter of your married life together. This song will forever be associated with your wedding day, so it's worth putting some thought into the selection process.
Consider Your Love Story
The best first dance songs often have a personal connection to the couple. Think about songs that have been meaningful throughout your relationship:
- Was there a song playing when you first met?
- Do you have a tune you always sing together in the car?
- Is there an artist you both love?
Sometimes, the perfect song isn't the most obvious choice, but one that holds special significance for you as a couple.
Think About Your Dance Skills
Be honest about your dancing abilities. If you're not comfortable with complex moves, choosing a slow, simple song might be best. On the other hand, if you've been taking dance lessons and want to show off, pick a song that allows for more elaborate choreography.
Popular First Dance Song Genres
While any song can be a first dance song, certain genres tend to be popular choices:
1. Classic Love Songs: Think Etta James' "At Last" or Elvis Presley's "Can't Help Falling in Love"
2. Modern Pop Ballads: Ed Sheeran's "Perfect" or John Legend's "All of Me"
3. Country Love Songs: Blake Shelton's "God Gave Me You" or Shania Twain's "From This Moment On"
4. Jazz Standards: Frank Sinatra's "The Way You Look Tonight" or Ella Fitzgerald's "Dream a Little Dream of Me"
5. Rock Ballads: Aerosmith's "I Don't Want to Miss a Thing" or Bon Jovi's "Thank You for Loving Me"
Remember, there are no rules - choose a song that feels right for you, regardless of genre.
Consider the Lyrics
Pay attention to the lyrics of potential songs. Do they resonate with your relationship? Are they appropriate for a wedding setting? Sometimes a song might have a beautiful melody but lyrics that don't quite fit the occasion.
Length Matters
Most first dances last between 2-3 minutes. If your chosen song is longer, consider having your DJ fade it out at an appropriate point or create a custom edit.
Test It Out
Once you've narrowed down your choices, take them for a test drive. Play the songs and try dancing to them in your living room. See which one feels the most natural and comfortable.
Trending First Dance Songs for 2024
Based on what I'm seeing at weddings across North Carolina, here are some songs that are trending for first dances in 2024:
1. "Lover" by Taylor Swift
2. "Beyond" by Leon Bridges
3. "Conversations in the Dark" by John Legend
4. "Speechless" by Dan + Shay
5. "Stand by Me" by Florence + The Machine
Remember, trends come and go, but choosing a song that's meaningful to you will never go out of style.
Don't Forget About the Ending
Consider how you want your first dance to end. Do you want to invite other couples to join you halfway through? Are you planning a big dip or spin at the finale? Communicate your plans with your DJ so we can coordinate accordingly.
What If We Can't Agree?
If you and your partner are struggling to agree on a song, here are a few strategies:
1. Compromise with a mash-up of both your favorites
2. Choose one song for the first dance and another for a special couple's dance later in the evening
3. Have your DJ create a custom mix that incorporates elements from both of your choices
Remember, at the end of the day, your first dance is about celebrating your love. The perfect song is out there - it might just take a little time to find it.
Need More Help?
As your wedding DJ, I'm here to assist you every step of the way in choosing your perfect first dance song. I have access to an extensive music library and years of experience in helping couples find that ideal tune. Don't hesitate to reach out for personalized recommendations based on your taste and style.
Your first dance is a beautiful, intimate moment that kicks off your reception celebration. With these tips and a little soul-searching, you're sure to find a song that perfectly captures your love story. And when that moment comes, and you're swaying in each other's arms with all your loved ones watching, I promise - it will be magical, no matter what song is playing.
Ready to find your perfect first dance song? Let's work together to create a musical moment you'll cherish forever. Your dream wedding soundtrack starts here!